Why Quit Facebook?

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Quitting something I enjoy is always difficult for me to do. Facebook was extremely fun for me. I loved getting to see old friends and re-connect with them. However, over the last year or so it's become more of a stress in my life than a joy. More of a time-suck of virtual reality.... for me. But the fact remains that I did love it.

I really think that Facebook can be a good tool but it can also be a detriment to your life. For some personality types such as mine, it can be very hard to separate reality from fiction. Were all these people on my page really my friends? Did I regularly talk to them on the phone? Did we email with each other? Would I get together with them at a coffee shop? More importantly, would they get together with me? These are questions that I really don't have complete answers for. I would love to believe that everybody is my friend as most people in the world would. But that's just not reality. Having said all that, I still enjoyed seeing what everybody was up to.

Passive learning isn't the same as active learning. Watching a television screen about fishing isn't the same as getting into the boat, propelling onto the water and actually catching a live, floppy, wet fish. Slowly over time I began to wonder if looking at photographs, commenting on statuses, liking comments, and adding new friends to my list was the same as having an actual friend in the world. I continued to justify having a Facebook page because how would I keep up with everybody without it? But the truth is people seemed to keep in touch years before Facebook was invented. I personally still love sending out Christmas cards. This is the first year that I can remember that I only got a handful of cards. I have to be honest, I was disappointed. But I understand that the cost of postage has definitely gone up so that could be the reason. But Facebook could also be the reason that people don't feel the need to send Christmas cards because they send out their holiday well wishes out on Facebook. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with that. Except that there are quite a few people in my life that aren't on Facebook who get excluded quite a bit. I now feel badly about that. I felt like they needed to get on Facebook in order to connect with me. In my head I even thought, "Well if they cared about me they would get on Facebook!" How ridiculous is that? I recently moved to another state. Want to know something? The memories that I hold dear are my real experiences. Experiences like visiting my grandparents on their farm and taking the kids around to look at their horses. -Just sitting on my grandparents porch talking to them and watching the kids play. -Enjoying the beautiful weather and the gentle breezes coming off their fields. Those are the things that I remember. Those are the things that I treasure. Oddly enough, I never think, "Wow, I really miss that one time on Facebook when… " That never entered my mind after I moved. Looking at photographs of a beautiful farm isn't the same thing as visiting the actual farm and talking to the actual owners.

The longer I had Facebook, the more stressed it made me. I have a crop of kids and they are supposed to be the ones keeping me busy. Not constantly wondering if somebody liked my latest picture of my cute kid or thinking about adding a witty status update to impress everybody. There were articles that people posted that upset me. There were comments that people posted that hurt me. But these people are safe behind their computer screens... Can't see my expression... Can't see my tears. They are free to be callous, hardened, and unfeeling hiding under the guise of it's just my opinion, and it's a free country. The lack of respect on Facebook is daunting. Maybe most people are able to ignore it. But I am no longer able to. One day it hit me, why am I putting myself through this stress? I have a stomachache and it won't go away because of something somebody said on Facebook! I am doing this to myself on purpose! I don't have to have a Facebook account. There's no law that says I have to have one. And in that moment I decided, I'm done. Stick a fork in me, I'm done. I want to be free from this prison. I want to live in reality again. I want to think about my life and what is happening currently. Not what is happening in a virtual community filled with people that I care about, but people, that if they cared about me, would make an effort to talk to me regardless of my having a Facebook account. And if they don't? Life goes on. Not pretend life on the screen. But real life, here and now, on this planet, living and breathing beautiful wonderful air.

This post isn't meant to be a judgment against people that still have Facebook. I was once there. I once couldn't let go. But now I have. Now I am free. I don't have to post my status updates anymore. I don't have to make sure that I take a photograph of what's happening so that I can let everyone know what's going on with me whether they would care about it or not. Now if I take a photograph I have a reason. I have an intended recipient. And honestly it's most likely my mom or my dad or somebody that really truly knows and cares for my kids because they invest time in their lives. Do I miss Facebook? Not really. Do I recommend everybody delete Facebook? That depends on you. That depends on your personality. If you're somebody that can live your life without thinking about Facebook 24/7 then Facebook is probably okay for you. But if you're somebody that thinks about it all the time, wants to check your Facebook constantly every waking moment then I suggest you delete your account. But whatever you decide, do what's best for you, not what's best for your 741 followers and 841 friends. Do what's best for your family and you'll never go wrong.

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Pregnant Moms Used as Guinea Pigs to Test Flu Vaccine

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Would any mom knowingly risk the life of her unborn baby? Nope. That's why this is unethical. Women are being registered so vaccine-makers can follow them and see if there are ill-effects on babies from vaccinating. Isn't it interesting that news channels and doctors are already telling pregnant women that it is SAFE when clearly, it is not safe? Call the number for yourself and check it out for yourself.

How I know Flu vax isn't safe.

From Angie, a homebirth midwife in Cleveland, Ohio:

On January 16, 2012 I learned that GlaxoSmithKline, manufacturer of a flu vaccine, has a pregnancy registry line. That day I called their pregnancy registry line to ask some questions, though my blood was boiling the longer the conversation went on. I wanted to scream, “How can you do this to pregnant women without their consent?!” Instead I kept my calm and continued to ask non-hostile questions. The following is the conversation that I had with the representative:

Angie: Hi, I am a midwife and I saw that you have a pregnancy registry for pregnant women who receive your vaccine. I was wondering…what is the purpose of the pregnancy registry?

Representative (from the GlaxoSmithKine’s pregnancy registry line): To determine if there are any problems with pregnant women and their babies.

Angie: How does the pregnancy registry work?

Representative: Before we go any further is it okay if I ask for your name and contact information?

Angie: Sure. (I gave my name and the contact info she asked for.)

Representative: Well, you know, we can’t do testing on pregnant women, so pregnant women can register themselves or their OB can register them. If the pregnant women registered themselves they are asked for their care provider’s contact information.

Angie: Why are they asked for their doctor’s contact information?

Representative: So that they can be followed since we can’t do drug testing on pregnant women.

Angie: So the moms and babies are followed?

Representative: Yes, they are, but we can’t do drug testing on pregnant women.

Angie: Right, so are they followed after birth or just to the time of birth?

Representative: They are not followed after birth—they are only followed to the time of delivery.

Angie: Why are they followed to the time of birth?

Representative: To look and see if there are any problems.

Angie: And they are not followed after the time of birth to see if there are any long-term effects?

Representative: No, they are just followed until the birth.

Angie: How are the moms and babies followed? Who is responsible for following them?

Representative: It is the Drug Safety Department that follows them. After the mom is registered, the Drug Safety Department sends the care provider a form to fill out asking if there were any problems at the time of birth.

Angie: So by “problems” do you mean birth defects?

Representative: Yes, birth defects.

Angie: What do they do then with this information?

Representative: Well, they want to see the safety of the vaccine, and then of course, down the road, our policy would change.

At this point I could not continue asking questions—I was so very angry. I thanked her for her time and hung up.

The following is from the label of the flu vaccine manufactured by GlaxoSmithKline:
* Safety and effectiveness have not been established in pregnant women or nursing mothers. (8.1, 8.3)
* Register women who receive FLUARIX while pregnant in the pregnancy registry by calling 1-888-452-9622. (8.1)

I encourage you to call them yourself and ask your own questions.

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Dentists and Parental Rights

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More and more I see parental rights being stripped in our country.....

Should a parent be banned from staying with their child when they go to the dentist?

I think not.

Bloomington Pediatric Dentistry in Indiana tried to bar me from accompanying my child- who was not quite 3. Not happening.

Parents, STAND UP when this kind of thing happens!!!!!!!!!!! Because it's happening more and more due to compliance. This is NOT ok.

Here is my review of their practice:

I made initial appointments for my children. I am from another state and have *never* heard of this nonsense of not allowing the parent back with the child. My 3-year-old has had teeth issues since 16 months old and is fearful of being without mommy or daddy. The staff would not budge on their "policy" but offered drugs (um, no) gas (sorry, NO) or a "blanket warmer" aka strait jacket.... Seriously? Seriously. Um NO!!!! Sorry folks, as a certified elementary teacher I can assure you this is UNNECESSARY and honestly illegal. There is no law that prohibits a parent from accompanying their child during a medical appointment. Look elsewhere unless you enjoy being told what you can and can not do regarding *your* child.

I stand by my opinion. I will *not* go to a dentist with this policy. I will drive BACK to my home state several hours away before I will let this happen.

I will not recommend this practice. I don't care if they have awesome wall murals. I don't care if the dentists are "the best" ever. It's not ok to tell parents you have to drug or strait jacket your kid and leave them alone with a stranger. SORRY. This Mama bear says "NOPE." Be brave, parents. Refuse to accept this.

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Grandma Pink's Dilly Beans

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Just in case anyone was wondering what I've been doing-

I'd like to point out that this was my first time canning ever. My husband and kids helped me a lot. As did YouTube. :)

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It's simply been too long since I blogged! I am a writer by nature and quite frankly, I miss it! I thought that posting to Facebook was a good replacement to posting on my beloved blog, but, turns out, it just isn't. For one thing, I can't go back through my posts like I can on a blog. Sure, I can see photos, but I don't get any "story."

So, I decided to start blogging again. I hope I still have some readers out there who are perhaps interested enough to read about my musings and attempts to make sense of this life I've been blessed to live out.

I promise that my next post will be more interesting.... Until then, be blessed and stay indoors when it's storming.

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Blessings of Cuteness

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It's been a fairly mild winter--- yay! Here are a few pics of our awesome children who rock the world! Really! They don't make them any better than this. :-)

I don't often post here anymore. Of you're a faithful reader, drop me a line bc I might quit posting altogether unless I hear from some readers. Lol.

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Somebody Turned One!

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Blink.... And you might miss it..... What blessings God has bestowed upon this grateful woman... <3 Thank you, Jesus... For each child of wonder....

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